So getting my daily dose of relationship advice over at the Fly Guy Chronicles, we get a chance to break down the ultimate getting to know you question.
“So why is a pretty lady like you single?” or… “So, why you ain’t got a man?”
Funny thing is while some may wait to the first date… I get this question on the first meeting. Like in the club…
So very inappropriate. Because I know what you are really saying is… “Bitch is you really crazy?!” [Yeah, I really meet bad speaking ass dudes.] As if something has to be wrong with me.
My answer: Because I choose to be! Just that simple…
Could it be that many have tried and many have failed?
Seriously, what do they expect you me to say… “Well it’s because I’m a weedhead, that supports my habit by tricking in the late night hours and I’m running from Offer Rickey because I wrote few dozen hot checks! I’m gonna text 72 times in the next hour and if you don’t call me back I’m gonna paste nasty statuses on FB about you!”
So no, I’m not crazy. I’m single by choice. Consider yourself lucky if I say I’m single because I am quick to say I got a man… Force of habit. *shrugs*
When you think about it, it really is a silly ass question to ask someone. Taking the time to get to know a person will prove whether or not there is reason they are single. Good or bad. Plus, you’re not going to get the truth anyway…
It will be the last person that they dated fault. If they are crazy, you’ll see the signs. Well, let’s hope you do because these Jiggas and Joes are sneaky these days.
By the way… I remixed Ay Bey Bey’s song!
So if you loved it, then you shoulda put a ring on it… If you liked, then you shoulda acted like it!
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I so understand that. Like there HAS to be something wrong with you if you are single. Which is most of the time NOT the case. So what, we have our priorities together, we are professional, and we do not need a man or need to be in a relationship in order for us to be defined. Being single does not have to be BAD. Being single is oftentimes a choice and it is a choice that I chose to currently be.
I so understand that. Like there HAS to be something wrong with you if you are single. Which is most of the time NOT the case. So what, we have our priorities together, we are professional, and we do not need a man or need to be in a relationship in order for us to be defined. Being single does not have to be BAD. Being single is oftentimes a choice and it is a choice that I chose to currently be.
Amen and pass the peas! Did men never notice that women don’t ask them why they are still single? We already know why..cause you keep sending your representative to come and talk to us. You know the better side of you that knows proper grammar and opens the door for us to get out the car then 3 weeks later……right.
And as much as I agree with putting a ring on it if a man tells you his goal for 2009 is putting a ring on your finger and you have only known him for three months RUN don’t walk away. (true story)
Amen and pass the peas! Did men never notice that women don’t ask them why they are still single? We already know why..cause you keep sending your representative to come and talk to us. You know the better side of you that knows proper grammar and opens the door for us to get out the car then 3 weeks later……right.
And as much as I agree with putting a ring on it if a man tells you his goal for 2009 is putting a ring on your finger and you have only known him for three months RUN don’t walk away. (true story)
great post Ms. Melody…you’re not so complicated 🙂
great post Ms. Melody…you’re not so complicated 🙂
“So why is a pretty lady like you single?”
LOL I have to admit I’ve said this before! Though, I never asked thinking something was wrong with her. I asked to learn more about her. The answer is telling and can lead to further conversation, or not.
“So why is a pretty lady like you single?”
LOL I have to admit I’ve said this before! Though, I never asked thinking something was wrong with her. I asked to learn more about her. The answer is telling and can lead to further conversation, or not.
^please stop
I’d be rich if I got paid everytime I heard that as well as plenty other ladies, it’s not even the question anymore it’s the repetitiveness that irritates me, like damn u couldn’t think of anything else to say?
^please stop
I’d be rich if I got paid everytime I heard that as well as plenty other ladies, it’s not even the question anymore it’s the repetitiveness that irritates me, like damn u couldn’t think of anything else to say?
It’s a tired line, but we think the same thing about them. If they are successful and gorgeous, we do wonder why they are single. I think that it’s human nature and nothing to be defensive about. Also when you hang in clubs or in the night life you hear the same sad lines. It’s pitiful but true.
It’s a tired line, but we think the same thing about them. If they are successful and gorgeous, we do wonder why they are single. I think that it’s human nature and nothing to be defensive about. Also when you hang in clubs or in the night life you hear the same sad lines. It’s pitiful but true.